The Importance of Finding a Sponsor
Staying sober is easier when you have someone to help keep you accountable and guide you through recovery. Finding a sponsor to be those things for you is imperative to recovery. Trusting someone you don’t know to guide you through recovery might not be easy, but they can help you because they have been exactly where you are.
You may not know where to start looking or what to look for in a sponsor. Luckily, there are many resources at your disposal. Here are a few tips to help you find the sponsor that is best for you.
Finding a Sponsor Through Sobriety Group Meetings
AA and 12-step group meetings are great places to find a sponsor. Here, you will meet a variety of people and get to know them through discussions and socializing. In the meetings, you can easily announce that you are looking for a sponsor so people know that you are interested in one. This takes some pressure off you because people have the opportunity to approach you.
Listen carefully to what people are saying during the meeting. This gives you insight as to what they have been through and what kind of person they are. You can hear how far along someone is in their recovery and how stable they are. This will be an indicator of whether they will be a good sponsor and help you through sobriety.
What To Look For In A Sponsor
#1 Someone Who Inspires You
Look for someone who inspires you. You must continue wanting to maintain a drug- and alcohol-free lifestyle. It may be that they live their life in such a way that you feel inspired to do the same. It could be their strength that you admire or simply the way they carry themselves. Maybe it’s the way they have learned to use alternative coping strategies to help them through difficult periods in their life. Whatever it is that draws you to them, make sure their qualities inspire you to continue living a sober life.
#2 Someone of the Same Gender
A sponsor who is of the same gender as you has many benefits. It allows for any intimate relationships to be put aside, as an attraction to your sponsor can be an obstacle to your progress. It is important that you stay focused on the purpose of your journey. This can also help you if you face issues not be related to substance use that are gender-specific. Often, someone of the same gender is easier to relate to and you may feel more comfortable being vulnerable with them.
#3 They Have Their Own Sponsor
Someone who already has a sponsor will have a better understanding of what this kind of relationship should look like. As someone has relied on a sponsor to help them stay sober, they will know what qualities are important to have to guide someone else. A good sponsor has been able to stay sober for at least a year and understands the time and dedication it will take to be a sponsor to someone else.
This allows you to connect with even more resources because they have someone above them. It shows you that they are committed to staying sober and have someone they can rely on when they have issues.
#4 Find Someone With a Different Perspective
Be open to the possibility of someone who doesn’t exactly think like you. During recovery, you are encouraged to start trying new things and creating new habits. Having someone that has a different perspective than you may benefit you in a lot of ways. It encourages healthy discussions and variety in conversations. You can both learn from each other when you are interested in different things and have different opinions.
You need someone who will be honest with you at all times. Going through recovery, it is important that you have someone who knows how to keep it real even during difficult times. They should be able to call you out when you’re in a bad pattern or need some tough love. Additionally, you should be comfortable with them asking about your progress and encouraging you to continue with the things that aid your recovery.
#6 Make Sure They Want to Be a Sponsor and Have Time to Be One
Once you have someone in mind that you think would be a good fit for you, reach out and see if they are interested in being your sponsor. Not everyone who is at an AA meeting and has maintained sobriety wants to become a sponsor. This also might be because they do not have the time to commit to that responsibility, or they might be a sponsor for someone else. It is best to make sure the person you reach out to has the desire and time commitment to help you so they can give their best to you.
For the best chance at staying sober, having a person who is available to help you with sobriety is key. Making sure you know what to look for in a potential sponsor will help you choose someone that will best fit your goals and inspire you. Once your intensive treatment has been completed, you should start looking at extra resources you may need before entering back into the “real world.” At Mountain Peak Recovery we offer treatment programs that allow you to receive continued support for your addiction recovery and mental health issues. Finding your light again after the battle with addiction can feel hard to do completely on your own. Our staff is highly trained to not only give you quality treatment but also show compassion on your recovery journey. Call Mountian Peak Recovery today at (801) 824-8829 to speak with us on how we can best help you.